My friends generally have the same experiences as me. The ones that don't are the 2nd generation Chinese. The 2nd generation parents don't put much emphasis on old traditions, nor do they on learning the chinese language. They also don't care that much if their children date.
What I glean from this is that american culture has diluted the Chinese culture over time. I don't know necessarily if this is a bad thing or not, just .. pointing it out.